Posted by just plain jane on November 13, 2004, at 19:29:43
In reply to Re: rattled ***HUGE TRIGGER*** » jujube, posted by octopusprime on November 13, 2004, at 19:12:31
Gee, o p
It sounds like your office has enough of its employees who are casual that maybe the idea of coworkers being in on it (his ignorant behavior) isn't such a bad one.
Were it my situation, I believe I'd go to work and when he tried to talk to me I would state clearly and just loudly enough for coworkers to hear, "Listen *butthead's name*, I am still angry and disappointed with you about your stunt Friday night. I'm not sure I want to have a friendship with someone who is so thoughtless. I would never have dreamed you would be so shallow and inconsiderate."
or something along those lines, in as calm and yet displeased a voice as I could. HeII, I might even confront him, instead of waiting for him to approach me.
This would be about the same conversation I would have with any coworker who asked if there was something wrong between you and *butthead's name*, in the context of telling them about it, of course, where the "you"s would become "he"s.
I believe this type of treatment of him would have a tendancy to get your point across without allowing him to perceive your vulnerability and the pain he caused, nor would it expose your emotional problems.
But then, the beating him up idea does appeal to me greatly, also. ;)
just plain noBS jane
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