Posted by gardenergirl on October 16, 2004, at 19:36:22
In reply to Sandwich generation support groups » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on October 16, 2004, at 17:12:09
Well, I'm not a huge CBT'er, so I can't really answer that question. But I suppose there are some areas when it's more therapeutic to teach coping and compensation versus attaining a new level or skill.
I remember an activities director at the nursing home where I used to work who told me that her father was in another facility not that far away, but that she could never visit him due to the nature of their relationship. She had struggled and struggled with that decision, but finally realized that it was okay. And she also realized that just as she was providing support and caring to the residents at our facility, someone was doing the same for her father (at least as much as he would allow in) at the other home.
I know your situation is different, and I can see how it would be upsetting if "supercaregiver" were in a group, or even some that just weren't supportive of individual needs. I support your decisions, because I know you don't make them lightly. I know you agonize over them. But you can only do what you can do. And you are the top priority for your care, followed (my values here, not necessarily anywone else's) by your son and your husband. Then what's left can work its way out.
Warmly,
gg
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