Posted by Emme on May 31, 2004, at 12:18:49
In reply to massive rant about being single, posted by Emme on May 30, 2004, at 8:48:28
Hi All,
Ooh, I hate it when my emotions go on a rampage. And I've got so many issues to go on a rampage about these days. But you guys have a lot of thoughtful things to say.
Thanks, Spoc, for your vote of confidence about liking my posts! Tabitha, your Christian Unabomber story had me in stitches. I've been thinking about my weirdest dates, but your non-date tops any of my real dates. :) There was the really bizarre acquaintance who wanted to date me, but had very few teeth because he wouldn't go to the dentist. That's pushing my "gross-out" limits. I really need them to have baths and good oral hygeine.
About married buddies: in truth, most of my friends (male and female) have at least maintained some degree of contact after getting married. One talks to me all the time. But I have to try to be zen about the fact that most contact and any visiting will be due to my efforts. And I've made a heckuva lot of effort over the years. I think whichever one of you said it about the one kid vs. 2 or more kids had a point. I guess it's just harder for people with multiple kids to carve out the time. Two vanished and I'm not going to make any more unreturned gestures.
Maybe it's for the best because I've started to dread talking to or seeing friends with children because it hurts so incredibly much not to have my own. Much as I value long-term friendships, after a while I may end up being the one to drop contact because I can't deal emotionally. How lame is that?
I'm always welcome to go to my brother's house, and to stay for multiple days if I want. But my brother and sister-in-law will never make the effort to drive 2.5 hours to visit me even though my neices are grown. I have no choice but to accept the limits.
For the last year I've been in serious limbo, so I've been in a bad position for dating and increasing social contacts. I'm sure not being able to *do* enough towards getting a better life is making it all seem that much worse and making my emotions go berserk.
Anybody got anything on that "meaning of life" thing? :)
Emme
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