Posted by Noa on May 31, 2004, at 9:52:38
In reply to Re: massiv-ER rant about being single, posted by spoc on May 30, 2004, at 13:26:49
I just remembered. When it comes to friends in relationships, rather than friends with children:
When I was younger and my friends were getting married, I remember observing that I was able to stay friends with the ones whose husbands who were friendly with their wives' friends, who took an interest in their wives' friendships-I don't mean in a controling or intrusive way, I mean that they were very welcoming and friendly and that while most of the time I would be getting together just with the woman friend, sometimes we'd all get together, or they'd include me in dinners or celebrations, etc.. When I'd call they'd say hi and ask how I am, etc. before handing the phone over to the woman. In contrast, in couples where the husband had no interest whatsoever in who his wife's friends are, and did not make any effort to be friendly to me, those friendships were much much harder to maintain and tended to fade out pretty much over time. It felt like too much of an effort with these friends.
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