Posted by All Done on January 19, 2004, at 12:59:36
I hope you don’t mind if I rant for a bit, but yesterday I got a phone call from my mom. A few months ago she said some things that hurt me beyond my wildest dreams. It devastated me and could have destroyed my family (me, my husband, and our son). I have been having a very difficult time dealing with it all. I’ve had to distance myself from her like I’ve never done before and it has me so torn I don’t know what to do. Some days, I just despise her and think I never want to see her again. Other days, I miss her terribly.
Yesterday she called and reverted back to her old ways of crying on my shoulder and complaining about every little thing under the sun. (Unfortunately, we lost my dad just over a year ago, too.) Everything has always been only about her, but I can’t stand to have it that way, anymore. I’ve never had boundaries with her before, but I think I need them now more than ever. How do I go about putting them in place after 31 years of having none? And why does she think we can just forget about what happened and go back to the way things were?
Sorry to be so down, but it’s just been a rough day for me. Thanks for listening.
All Done
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