Posted by Poet on October 22, 2003, at 14:29:34
In reply to Stop Violating Boundaries? Long...., posted by Susan J on October 22, 2003, at 11:07:28
Ugh, you have a space invader. My sympathy.
Space invaders don't take hints, it's time to go against your nature and be blunt. Fight rudeness with rudeness, I say.
Next time she stands there listening to your side of a personal call, start talking real quiet. If she moves closer, then say "I'm sorry, please hold, (pest's name) is there something you need right away? I didn't think so." Then go back to talking real quiet.
When she really gets to you say "do you want me to put this on speakerphone so you can hear both sides of the conversation?" If she says yes, shake your head and say "get a life."
Or say "she's listening again, hold on" To her "do you mind?" If you feel really mad, just add "and she can't figure out why her husband dumped her." Cruel but effective.
I agree with Larry H. that you should document as much as you can. Her touching your hair is sexual harrassment, it doesn't matter what the sex of either party is or any physical attraction. I'm not saying it's lawsuit time, but make it clear to her (hopefully with a witness) that her behavior won't be tolerated- ever.
Don't you wish there was an office pest exterminator you could call?
Poet
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