Posted by cybercafe on October 21, 2003, at 2:43:56
In reply to Re: I love this thread :) » cybercafe, posted by Susan J on October 20, 2003, at 8:50:14
> Good Morning, Cyber,
>
> > let me know if i'm getting too personal but i would love to know what a guy can do to keep the sexual chemistry there ..... i'm wondering about innuendo/teasing, casual touching ... not just what i should be aiming at to be the next cassanova, but at least the basics that is expected
> <<Not too personal to me, just don't know how appropriate it is for this board. Don't want to weird people out. :-)ug... i came off a bit wrong there.... i was more interested in knowing things like, damn, when do you start to hold hands, not the more private stuff... but dont' mind me, i'm starting a new antidepressant in about 2 hours so i'm sure my insecurities will be replaced with unrelenting self-confidence :) <counts down the minutes to parnate>
> After that, if you've seen *Bringing Down the House* with Steve Martin and Queen Latifah? I totally agree with Queen Latifah on how a guy should act in the bedroom. I'm not writing it here. :-)
yeah bedroom was never a problem for me, but looking back i can't tell if this is because you both already feel confident that the other person likes you, or because i was on a good antidepressant :)
hmmm..... i'm going to have to start working on a plan to find out which girls are more affectionate before i spend a lot of time getting to know them..... i'm thinking asking them might be the easiest way :)
> >.. yeah....... that makes total sense ....
> > what signals should a guy be looking for ?
> <<I don't know. :-( I probably don't give out good signals, and I don't know what men look for. Eye contact never hurts. If she's able to keep eye contact fairly long, it's a sign she's interested.coool... i love this advice... if we could spend 5% of the time discussing relationships that we do discussing meds we would be experts!
> <<Yeah, but all these adds are looking for bright, upbeat women, great outlook on life, zest for life, fun and happy.
you seem pretty bright and upbeat ..... as much as anyone i've talked to .... but i've not known guys or ads to be so focused on positivity ?? ... i always hear "attractive, funny, confident, mature, interesting, fun" ... i wouldn't worry about it too much....... YOU just have to be confident that YOU have something to offer ... and if you're not currently suffering significant depressives symptoms i'm sure you do... and if you don't, you could probably fake it :)
> I feel more laid back than that most of the time....Nobody thinks I'm sad, though, so I must not be projecting that. And I don't go around saying doomy gloomy stuff either.there you go, nothing to worry about!
don't forget to smile :) (this is something i had to train myself to do... along with good body posture and relaxed posture)
> >> (then nothing happened because cybercafe didn't know how to advance the chemistry :( )
> <<LOL! I don't mean to laugh, it's really very sweet. Call her! (Or did you not get her number?)nah there is no way i can go out with anyone until i get over this washout period .... less than 2 hours before i start parnate though..... yay parnate!
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