Posted by Emme on October 20, 2003, at 9:31:28
In reply to Re: when to talk about depression, posted by octopusprime on October 19, 2003, at 13:40:59
Gee, I haven't dated seriously in over 5 years, due in part to not having the emotional and physical energy to be active enough to meet anyone. Yeah, the random date, but no real matches.
But I've thought about what I would do about disclosure. I figured I'd hold off for a while and then play it by ear depending on how quickly we got to know each other, and if the topic were somehow brought up by him. I'd hope that I was coming off as upbeat as possible. Maybe if I were really depressed I'd end up coming off as droopy. Maybe not. I do think it's a bit of a litmus test. If the guy can't deal with it if, then he's not worth it anyway.
I know I wouldn't be freaked by a guy telling me about his psych problems as long as he didn't spring it on me in the first few dates, was pleasant to be around, and as long as I knew he was getting treated. God knows there's enough people walking around with depression/bipolar/anxiety/whatever that there's a good chance anyone could end up dating one.
I do have one friend that told her boyfriend all about all her difficulties before they even got really involved. She wanted him to know what he was getting into. They stayed together and have a solid marriage. Not how I'd do it, but I guess you never know.....
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