Posted by kara lynne on September 17, 2003, at 17:29:39
In reply to The Ex Another Woman » kara lynne, posted by Susan J on September 17, 2003, at 13:51:37
Susan! More! Please! Can you come stay with me and just keep saying those things over and over again? Ok, perhaps I'm a little needy, but I'm working on that.
It is so easy to delude myself into thinking he has become perfect in every way. He *is* in recovery, which (this sounds so terrible) pisses me off. I mean it pisses me off only in that I do feel like maybe I left right before the 'miracle', you know? That whole 'we learned all over each other' thing---and now he leaves and some other woman will reap the benefit. That did happen to me with someone; he even used those words, that he learned on me. Well how nice for him, I don't remember getting paid for the job (hmmm, didn't quite mean that the way it sounded).
How are you doing? Didn't you just get into something with your ex or did I remember something innacurately--I will go back and try to find your posts, I'm interested to know.
By the way, I'm sure you're gorgeous yourself even though I so competely understand the self-image conflict. It's a killer.
No, I can't imagine that he's going to be any less self centered or workaholic, or able to connect in any meaningful way. But that sweet honeymoon period-- those blissful three months. But that quirky, charming inability to express himself quickly turns into a pathological incapability of comitting, or expressing love. And that killed me too.
My counselor just reminded me how easy it is to forget that--and how life threatening it is to do so.
Thank you so much for your post. I am going to print this one out and wear it on my head.
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