Posted by Arrianna on September 1, 2003, at 22:19:53
In reply to Physically threatened..SCARED..HELP!, posted by Arrianna on September 1, 2003, at 16:59:45
Thanks everyone for your prompt replys. I have been worried about this all weekend and can't get it out of my head. Everytime I hear an unfamiliar noise or see someone out of the corner of my eye, I jump thinking it's him.
You are all right. I WAS fooling myself. I don't want to see him again. He is NOT worth it, nor is the risk of rationalizing away his behavior worth it!
I did state in my previous post that I recorded his threats to the police, but did not file a report. I'm too afraid that if I do, he would retaliate. If it happens again though, I will. Then, the dispatcher said she couldn't give me any info. on his criminal background especially since I won't file a report at this time.
So, I'm thinking about going on-line to do a background check on him. I've seen on-line before that you can get this info. for a fee. I think it'd be worth it.
With your advice, I have decided that if he comes around again, I will tell him that I can't see him again because I have too much going on in my life right now. I'm going to tell him, too, that I am a recovering alcoholic (which is true), and I need to be around sober people, and that it's nothing against his use. Hopefully, he'll accept this and let it go at that. Also, if he comes to the door, I'm going to bring down my phone, so he'll know that if he tried anything, I could easily call 911. Then, I'll just tell him I have plans and have to go.
It'll be hard, but now I know it's what I have to do for my safety, and especially my son's. I can't put his life at jeopardy either.
Thanks again for your support!! I really needed it. And for G: I'm so sorry to hear that you were in an abusive relationship!!!! Nobody deserves that; and I now understand how easy it can be to rationalize this unacceptable behavior and blame ourselves. I don't how your healing is with this, but please know it WASN'T your fault. Also, good for you for getting OUT! Your post has helped save me from alot of unneccessary pain and suffering. Thank You.
Arriann
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