Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2003, at 20:23:49
In reply to Physically threatened..SCARED..HELP!, posted by Arrianna on September 1, 2003, at 16:59:45
Arrianna,
I think that you should follow your instincts and not see this guy again. I think that if he comes to your apartment that you could say something like "I don't think that we have a future together - I didn't feel any chemistry. I'm sorry.". It would be hard for him to argue with that, but there also isn't really anything he could do to change your mind. Hopefully he would let it stop with that.
I guess that I'm hoping that you can get him to forget you with as little commotion as possible.
If he starts coming back repeatedly, then it is a different story. But let's cross that bridge when we come to it.
You are not the first woman to like someone who could be abusive to her. He has many qualities - one of which is that he believes every solution includes bodily harm. Some of his other qualities are wonderful. But this particular one can make you miserable, hurt or worse.
Sometimes women to get into relationships with abusive men either were abused as children, or had parents who were abusive. It is so easy to choose our relationships as adults based on what we saw as kids. It takes lots of effort to NOT follow those patterns.
You do NOT want to be in a relationship with someone who scares you.
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