Posted by Gabbix2 on September 4, 2003, at 13:40:24
In reply to Re: Hi Gabbix2 » Arrianna, posted by fallsfall on September 4, 2003, at 11:46:25
It was kind of tempting to leave that subject heading the way it was. I liked all those "Hi Gabbi's"
Arianna when I read your post I had such a
visceral reaction to it, my heart was pounding. When I read
"I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt"
I wanted to scream "He doesn't deserve it"
He's already playing power game with you.
As you've mentioned.
You said you didn't want to go out with him and why, he had no respect for that.It might not look like it, its so subtle but its is a flashing warning sign.
In a great book I read called
"The Gift of Fear" bu Gavin de Becker, who
studies the patterns of stalkers and abusers for a living.
He mentions that humans, women especially are the only people who will ignore there fears and instincts, and yet they are there for our survival.
In the wild a rabbit doesn't hear something and flinch, and then go 'Oh its probably nothing"
Only humans do that.You don't have to be polite. He was not polite.
He's had no respect for you on two occasions now.Women are brought up to be polite and thats the danger.
Giving men who were persistant,or
intrusive or who wanted to "Save me" (another
power trip) the benefit of the doubt is what got me where I am, and its no place you want to be.Phil again, was right on about everything as far
as I'm concerned. Do not encourage him. He'll only hear what he wants too.Do not call him. He can't be reasoned with
obviously, he hasn't listened to you yet, and he
hardly knows you. This is the time he's supposed to be on his BEST behavior, god only knows what will happen later on.
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