Posted by lostsailor on June 19, 2003, at 13:55:07
In reply to Wendy re: Kara (long), posted by kara lynne on June 18, 2003, at 13:32:12
I haven't been posting for a lot of reasons, but have been wanting to on this topic more than any. I did not want to say anything while having tons to say. I just wanted to stay off it when you were still full of ambiguity and uncertainty. At the risk of a PBC, get the hell away from him and tell him to kiss your ass as you bolt the door of your own place.
You are an "asset" here, as I'm sure you are in many places. You may be an asset to his life, but more as a trophy. A detriment? What a testament!!!! You to help entertain and be by him makes you a valuable investment--a good part of a business portfolio, but part of the reason this is such a seemingly viable/valuable investment is that he has thought you were stable and non-fluctuating. You could crash like a china doll in private and he can bitch at you about it; he can grumble to pals and those he rubs elbows with at work to be known as a patron saint for helping the helpless ("learned" helpless, perhaps, if I may)
Like Lot fleeing Sodom and Gomorrah, don't look back at the risk of becoming a pillar of salt--one of sterling crystal, though:)
You are best for him because I don't think anyone would allow him to get away with what he has for only the 6 months or so of reading your posts. I am fairly certain that all was not roses before I picked up the book. I would predict that when you are gone, he will return. He may beg, grovel and ask forgiveness. I can't say what you should do, as your heart is in this, and I am an observer, but it seems like it's your turn to have the upper hand. Not for spite but don't let him win, when this may just begin again.
Play it safe; play it right. Ask the cats when in question: they always fall paws side down.
~t
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