Posted by noa on June 3, 2003, at 20:06:32
In reply to Re: Leeran? » Dinah, posted by leeran on June 3, 2003, at 14:08:22
Leeran,
It is so clear how GOOD a job you have done with your son, and how much you live in him. He takes you with him wherever he goes now.
I respect you for the process you have allowed yourself to go through. One of the ways you give to your son is to give him the space to find out for himself what his relationship with his father is about. Yes, he might get hurt and disappointed, but because you are demonstrating trust in him to deal with that, I am sure he feels loved and respected and guided even when you are not physically in close proximity. That kind of trust is one of the best ways to let kids know that you know them for who they are, that you love them for who they are, that you value who they are, etc. It is validating for his sense of self, I believe. This will let him know that you believe in his ability to muster his inner resources to face such challenges, but also that you will always continue to be the non-judging outer resource he can turn to when he needs support.
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