Posted by noa on March 10, 2003, at 18:05:46
In reply to Worst fear realized . . . , posted by bozeman on March 10, 2003, at 1:12:22
((((Bozeman))))
I'm so sorry. It sounds awfully painful.
Where are you living now? What supports (in-person) do you have?
As for the painful feelings and depression--if you can keep in your mind that they are separate--that it is normal to feel painful feelings at a time like this, and doesn't have to mean depression (is this making any sense? I hope so)--that is important, I feel. And that the intense pain is now, but won't last forever.
Don't overanalyze your relationship history right now. There is time to do that after you get through the tough spot of grieving the loss. (I know, if you're like most of us, it is likely nearly impossible to resist the endless analysis of how you pick men, how your relationships go, etc., so at least when you find yourself doing it, see if you can assign less weight to your conclusions right now, like saying, "OK, I'm gonna leave this and come back to it another time. Right now I just need to get through this and get my equilibrium back.")
Do something TLC for yourself, consider it from your babble friends.
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