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Re: The saga continues...Chapter 2

Posted by Phil on December 25, 2002, at 9:12:37

In reply to Re: The saga continues...Chapter 2 » Miller, posted by dreamerz on December 25, 2002, at 0:25:28

Phew, I should just go with dreamerz answer but...
I usually meet the kind of person you met but they are female-I think they all come from the same part of hell. When you found out he was married, he already set the hook. It's very hard to see things as they are when you meet these people and you will do things that you would never do otherwise.
I've gotten hooked on some of these people and my judgement leaves me. I will do and say things that I don't understand. These people have a real loose grip on the truth. There's always your inner-voice saying that something is just not right. It should, he was dishonest from the start.
In "Don't Call It Love", the author says to trust your gut instinct about these people. That was my mistake in the two relationships I got into. Although I think I can judge people fairly well, these people have such talent at bullshitting, it's uncanny. It's very easy to think you love them.
The cure:
1. Awareness
2. Work on your self-worth
3. Don't sleep with them until you know them and have met their friends. b. These people rarely have friends that you can meet.
4. If the moment you meet them, there's a strong physical attraction, slow way down.
5. The first lie you hear, don't argue with them, just get the hell away. People in these relationships love to argue.

I figure I attract these people because they can spot victims and so can I. But I know the beast well now and would be willing to lead an asexual life to avoid the same mistake. My two experiences were awful but I always had a choice.
But, by far, the best thing to do is avoid getting trapped.

I hope I don't sound preachy or haven't assumed too much but I would risk it to let others know that these people are everywhere and you don't know true misery until you've gone through absolute hell with one of them.

My main message to you, Miller...
1. Let it go
2. Do not beat yourself up
3. You were doing the best you could(I believe that)
4. You have lot's of company from love struck teens to President's.
5. Love addiction is harder to stop than any substance.

You aren't without friends here. You deserve unconditional love. If you need to talk you can email me at dotphilly at yahoo dot com.

Phil



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