Posted by mair on December 11, 2001, at 15:20:55
In reply to Re: Sorry Sar, posted by sar on December 11, 2001, at 12:55:16
Sar - the only person I've ever known who worked as a stripper was this woman who, while in college, spent her junior year abroad living in Lapland. After she got back she built a lap hovel (no bigger than a tent) on someone's property in the woods, and spent her senior year living there through rain, sleet and snow etc, with no plumbing or electricity. After college she moved out to California, and I'm told, anyway, became a stripper for awhile because the money was pretty good. She always struck me as someone who was very comfortable with who she was, and didn't need the opinions of others to define herself.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being a stripper so long as you're comfortable with the reasons for doing it. If you are, you should be able to filter out the negative messages. I also (emphatically) don't think there's anything wrong with doing something like this because it's your best opportunity to get yourself out of debt and to maintain a standard of living. You shouldn't be apologetic about this. Jeesh it's not like you're selling drugs to schoolchildren or fencing stolen property.
I don't think the quote about the walking through the fire, means that you have to feel bad to feel good. I think it means that you can find strength through any number of things, and maybe for you that means facing some adversity and trying to turn it into a positive. My own sense of self-esteem being what it is, this wouldn't work for me, but I hope it does for you. I also hope that if it doesn't, you are able to pull away and congratulate yourself for doing what it seemed might work best.
If you're sick of this topic already, don't respond - just know you'll always find support here since you've given others so much.
Mair
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