Posted by sar on August 16, 2001, at 23:43:14
In reply to Re: missing fiance » sar, posted by adamie on August 16, 2001, at 20:55:56
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> that is nonsense. that is the case with typical people but not us. Before the depression everything was perfect and it still in the sense that nothing has changed between us. And what do you know about love? Putting all eggs in one basic is a risk? Relationships shouldn't be a game but I guess to you they are. Is all you care about is how everything goes for you and not your significant other?
it's your relationship and of course i don't know you, nor you, me. i didn't mean to imply that relationships are a game. i don't believe that at all. of course i've cared deeply for my significant others. i was with my last boyfriend for nearly 3 years. we were so good for each other that neither of us really took the time to maintain our other friendships. when we broke up, we both fell into horrible, lonely depressions. since this woman is your fiance, you will probably go on to marry her and i hope that everything goes fine, but just on the off-chance...> And no we would never take any time away from eachother. that is disgusting.
will you be able to work, or will you both be sharing an office at home?
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> And discuss marital problems? Gossip about my fiance? Such things are all common for typical people but not for us. If we were to so much as get into one arguement there would be clearly something wrong. we are perfect for eachother and such things could never happen. and everything will be like it has been when I recover.i didn't mean you ought to gossip about your fiance. but say like, it's her birthday, and you can't decide whether to get her the diamond bracelet or the BMW. a friend could help you out.
> we know everything about eachother and there is no doubt between us so there are no worries.
that's good. how long have you been together? i am envious of all of your insight. i often feel like i don't even know myself very well.
> > depression is a terrible mindframe/illness. it has great capability of destroying relationships, careers, credibility, etc.
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> that happens because the other person doesn't fully understand the ilness their loved one is going through. And also depression itself makes it harder to show love towards someone. but my fiance is understanding. she knows I will be better in time. And even if I wouldn't be there is no doubt for her that she would always want to be with me. Ever heard of through sickness and in health? people simply dont take marriage seriously.you're right.
> > i am only 23 (there are some wiser elders on this board) but this is what i figure: PERSONAL STRENGTH. get it together man, with the help of doctors or whatever. you need more than your fiancee. your relationship may be unique...but whose isn't?
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> One who is trully depressed cannot just get it together. would getting it together cure one's cancer? I have been going through quite a bit of mind torture.i'm sorry, i didn't mean to use the "pull yourself up by your bootsraps/get off the pity pot" take. i too suffer from major depression and quite a bit of mind torture. i have been hospitalized, on meds, etc...i just meant it sounds like you're so dependent on her that that could actually contribute to your depression over time...
> and regarding my ilness of course I need more than my fiance. but that is different. of course being with her wouldn't restore the chemicals in my brain but at least I would be safer. well bye.
i hope that it all works out.
sar
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