Posted by Willow on August 16, 2001, at 19:56:55
In reply to Re: missing fiance » adamie, posted by sar on August 16, 2001, at 16:59:28
> dear adamie,
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> your messages concern me. you don't need any more friends because of your fiancee? sounds like putting all of yr eggs in one basket to me. that doesn't sound very helpful. who will you hang out when you need time away from her (and, i guarantee, if you marry, you will, no matter how much you are in love). who will you discuss your marital problems with?
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> it sounds as if you love her very much, and i respect that. to put so much stock into one person, though...i work in a bookstore and one of our bestsellers is a book on co-dependency. this seems like a problem many people have. it can be very destructive.
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> depression is a terrible mindframe/illness. it has great capability of destroying relationships, careers, credibility, etc. i am only 23 (there are some wiser elders on this board) but this is what i figure: PERSONAL STRENGTH. get it together man, with the help of doctors or whatever. you need more than your fiancee. your relationship may be unique...but whose isn't?
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> sar
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