Posted by tdaneen on January 11, 2001, at 14:16:52
In reply to Need to bend an ear.....anybody have one available, posted by tdaneen on January 7, 2001, at 14:10:50
Well, kids I want to thank you for the encouragement. It did help me before I went to court. Good news. He is paying child support, and has some set visitation. Bad news, he is going to go for joint custody. Now, please read the next part carefully to see why this is bad news. You see, he has been saying joint custody for a while. I have agreed to joint legal. Well, that is not enough for him. It seems that while he has been placating me, thinking all is well, he has been trying to decide on how HE is going to get sole physical custody of our child, and give me visitation. Needless to say, this man whom I thought just didn't have it in him to understand me and the reality of a wife who is bipolar, apparently KNEW exactly when and exactly what to say to push me over into a blubbering mess. Isn't it enough, that I have been doing everthing I can to make sure that the transition from my child's parents being together to being apart a smooth and unstressful one for her? Isn't it something that I kept her in the same preschool which is 25miles away from where we live, just so my baby could have stability, something that would still be the same. Even if her house, and bed, and schedule had changed. We get up and I drive over an hour out of my way every morning just for my daughter. It isn't for my health, or because I like the scenery. I was getting ready to transfer her to a preschool in the same town as where we live, because she is going to attend public school in the fall, also there are more opportunities for activities such as swimming, or gymnastics, or plays. We live in an area that has been declared a winter disaster area as well. My STBX offered to take the car I had been driving because he said he wasn't going to be able to make the payments anymore (he was doing so in leiu of child support), I figured he would just refinance it and keep it, well, he traded it in on a $24,000 brand new car. He left us with a car that has over 185,000 miles on it. I don't feel as safe, and I want to introduce my child to children that she will be going to school with. I don't see these as unreasonable things.
My husband is going to try and base his entire custody case on the fact that I have theDREDDED MENTAL ILLNESS!!!! brother. I take my meds, I see my doc, I see my therapist. If I have trouble I see them more. If I need a break from my baby...I ask her father if he would like to see her. If not, then I ask my parents. Yes. I have been in the hospital. Once. My Pdoc offered even before I asked to write an (sorry 'bout the spelling here) affidavid vouching for me. He doesn't see any problems.
Other than my attorney being a flake (long story), and my XTB being an emotionally manipulative and abusive person, and the money (I have NO idea where I'm going to get that for the custody retainer...geesh, I HATE money...or is that not having any money?)I guess I'm doing ok. I'm surprised! I should be face down in a mud puddle, but I'm not. Thank the Lord for effexor, and topamax, and adderall!
Again, I really, REALLY want to thank you, especially Racer. I made the copies like you suggested, my attorney handed them out, of course the XTB's leach (read lawyer) said that I could have just made it all up, but at least I felt like I had some kind of contribution, and wasn't leaving things up to others. The good Lord knows MY attorney sure wasn't doing anything.
I'm sorry, this isn't really the forum for this...is it?Anyway, thanks again, Racer, medlib,kstv, and tina. You really did help keep me focused and calm.
Time for some corney > > > >HHHUUUUGGGGSSSS< < < < <
TDANEEN
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