Posted by MomAndStep on December 1, 2007, at 22:50:41
In reply to Narcissistic Mother/Parent + Dangers, posted by jacs on September 24, 2007, at 19:49:20
Jacs - I understand. I fortunately have a Mother that is what every one would want if they could pick their own parent. However, I know of 3 adults who had narcissistic parents and unfortunately my step children have a narcissistic mother as well. I married my husband 5 years ago and he has 3 children from a previous marriage. A friend slipped him a book called "Why is it always about you? The 7 deadly sins of narcissism." I sat down and read the sections that were not just the dry medical facts aloud and he confirmed that his ex-wife was in fact a narcissist. For an example of how it truly is all about her…for 6 months after he left her home, she was receiving sympathy cards and nightly casseroles. My husband was told by a family member of hers that it would have been better if he had died instead of just leaving her. It has been a struggle for him since they divorced to have equal time with his kids. He went to a mediator a judge, they both had lawyers and the kids were in counseling. The ex-wife was able to snow everyone (as I have come to witness for myself) and he has not been able to have equal time with his kids. He left her abuse to be able to provide a better, more stable life for them but, the only result was to take away the firewall that he was between her and the kids. If asked today if they would like to spend more time at Dad’s house, they start to shake, say NO, and if you push the subject one of them will start to cry. It’s a no win situation when dealing with the evil that is narcissism. In the above mentioned book it says your only option is to run and run fast. That is not always a possibility when the abuser is a relative. We have many more years to fight with this force. Wish us all luck!
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