Posted by baseball55 on July 7, 2016, at 20:08:05
In reply to trusting your T, posted by rockerr on July 6, 2016, at 11:33:58
> i am not quite sure what to make of this as i believe he does care for me but i have almost zero capacity to feel this from him or anyone else for reasons that obv date back to my childhood. it worries me that he states he is concerned that i dont feel caring from him and this means i may not be able to progress. it makes me feel that i am not able to benefit from therapy. i realize this may be a leap but im wondering if anyone can relate and if after a number of years you too have felt that your therapist does not care about you despite on some level knowing that they do but you cannot feel it for the most part....and if you have felt that way did the therapy still progress somehow?
Also, I think worrying about whether your T cares about you is a fundamental problem in therapy. After all, you are not part of their non-professional life and have to pay them to see them. It helped me some that I had a friend who was a therapist and realized that she really cared a lot about her clients. Also, as a teacher, I care a lot about my students, even though I do want to be paid to teach them and my relationship with them is limited. Both my T and my therapist friend said that therapists can't work with clients if they don't care about them. That you have to find something to love and respect in a client to work with them effectively. It helped me a lot to talk through this (over and over and over)with my T. Do you bring it up in sessions frequently and talk about it?
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