Posted by rockerr on July 6, 2016, at 11:33:58
hi. i have had a number of T's over the years. the same issue seems to arise, that even after a few years of treatment with the same T, i do not trust them. i even imagine they are treating me with contempt even when they are not and it is not always possible for me to see through that feeling, meaning, i believe it.
most recently, after working w current T for 3 years, i express to him once again i do not trust him and i do not feel her cares much about me. he tells me this is not true and that he is concerned hearing this because a feeling of caring is required for therapy to progress and he states if he does not feel it from a therapist in his own prev treatment he would terminate the therapy.
i am not quite sure what to make of this as i believe he does care for me but i have almost zero capacity to feel this from him or anyone else for reasons that obv date back to my childhood. it worries me that he states he is concerned that i dont feel caring from him and this means i may not be able to progress. it makes me feel that i am not able to benefit from therapy. i realize this may be a leap but im wondering if anyone can relate and if after a number of years you too have felt that your therapist does not care about you despite on some level knowing that they do but you cannot feel it for the most part....and if you have felt that way did the therapy still progress somehow?
thanks so much.
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