Posted by Twinleaf on May 31, 2012, at 9:46:58
In reply to Want vs. Need » Twinleaf, posted by annierose on May 31, 2012, at 7:34:28
I do get what you are saying. It's wonderful that there have been three other men there in some way, and it is probably helping your confidence a lot. Still, your therapist is right about not rushing into anything out of need, rather than out of desire and a sense of confidence and strength.
I met and fell in love with my husband in graduate school just three weeks after I had decided I was too choosy and would never marry anyone! It all happened very quickly during a time when I wasn't looking to date anyone, and was planning a single life. I have always thought that my self- reliance and relative absence of need at that time was what helped it all happen.
But it can be hard to regulate one's needs when you have men showing an interest! All you can do is try to aim for a happy medium in your own feelings.
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