Posted by Dinah on January 11, 2012, at 9:27:46
In reply to Happy is hard, posted by Daisym on January 11, 2012, at 0:44:04
I'm guessing your therapist has told you that being happy or well doesn't mean losing him? If not, you need to have that talk. If my therapist hadn't done that, being happy wouldn't have looked nearly so good.
Would it help to think of happiness more as a state to pass through from time to time on your journey, and not the destination? You can enjoy the moment without worrying that you'll always be happy (you won't - no one is) or that you no longer will need your therapist (you may or may not).
And in the meantime, being happy will shake up therapy a bit. You and your therapist can see what Happy Daisy is like. You can unfold your happiness like a gift for both of you, and delight in it together. It could bring fresh life into the relationship.
Just a thought...
It's funny, isn't it, how each stage brings its own terrors? Remember how we used to think that if we just felt like our therapist cared about us, all would be well?