Posted by rskontos on July 29, 2009, at 14:15:16
In reply to Re: My therapist said no » rskontos, posted by Dinah on July 28, 2009, at 13:14:18
I think maybe it isn't comforting because you are now aware of a problem of his that affects how he deals with you and the most important thing in the room should only be you and your needs. IT seems that his issue is getting in the way. At least that is how I would feel. I think sometimes we modify our behavior due to how we see ourselves affecting them and that just isn't what needs to happen in therapy.
I do understand mine. Mine does the coffee thing too and says it isn't me but sometimes it is just hard to ignore it and I get mad and clam up. He knows and usually gets more alert when I stop talking suddenly. I told him that this behavior reminds me of my father, ugh.
I think it is the fact that now they suddenly look more human and not perfect to us. And that isn't a comfort is it?
rsk
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