Posted by rskontos on November 18, 2008, at 17:54:22
In reply to Re: i want to have an affair (**Trigger**), posted by Dinah on November 18, 2008, at 12:39:36
My husband, too, was so resistant to having the second child. Obviously we did, my son is now 16. He had a vast array of reasons he did not want another child. I am not sure that your husband would have the same reasons, but my H and I did talk about them. It helped but the real thing that helped my H was talking to other men about the issue. Men that already had other children. With them he was able to explore in a meaningful way, the pros and cons of more. In the end, he was able to articulate to me, that it came down to more that he was afraid he could not love another child like he loved our firstborn and the financial responsibility overwhelmed him. He did finally get over it, but he went kicking and screaming. Not literally, but figuratively. Now, he is, of course, thrilled with his son. But it was tough for him.
I think everyone is right. You might try to explore his reasons first to see why he is so resistant. Then go from there.
rsk
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