Posted by happyflower on November 1, 2008, at 19:59:04
In reply to Re: My latest decision about T~Long~ » happyflower, posted by LadyBug on November 1, 2008, at 18:30:37
I am not sure if T's can be there enough if we have attachment issues, even if they were in our life personally. To me it is like a huge hole that only gets a thin scab to grow over it while in therapy. The truth is we need others in life to help and T's can never be one of those people. IT must frickin hurt after so many years. I have a feeling she is hurting too about the way things ended.
I just don't know how to heal myself without therapy, I wish I could quit too. I sure wish we lived closer . :( I think if I had a good friend close by to have a weekly coffee or hot chocolate date, it would help so much.
I am really worried about you, especially since the holidays are coming up.
Is there anyone that can be with you after you see your T? You shouldn't be alone. When are you seeing her, have you made an appointment yet ?
I really wish you could trust the profession more, I have worked with some wonderful T's for the most part. I think in a way one T can't help us with everything. Maybe a new T could help with the adoption thing or the ending of your marriage. Maybe short term? You don't' have to get attached like the old one, you can set the rules for yourself.
I just feel so bad that you feel so alone, it really makes me sad because you are such a caring beautiful person. I wish I could have a friend like you to have fun with.
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