Posted by JayMac on November 1, 2008, at 15:38:37
In reply to Re: Is this an example of a dual relationship?, posted by rskontos on November 1, 2008, at 13:42:55
Rsk,
> a couple of things occurred to me, could be something could be hogwash. one is that maybe you two have a meeting of the minds so to speak in the psychology world, and yet you on the same hand feel inadequate in some part so now you want to challenge her in order to equalize the situation. Like I said could be hogwash.
You are right!!! You are completely right!!!! She has mentioned this before, but we haven't gotten past her interpretation. I didn't know what to think of it, what to do with it. I do try to equalize the situation with her! I want to know more than she does! I want to be better than her!!!! Gosh...........it's hard feeling these feelings.
> And then as others have said it could be a way to avoid what is really going on or a way to avoid going deeper.
Yep, it is.
> This is what I do. I use my intellectualize or left brain side to stay the heck away from getting "emo" as my children call getting to emotional. For some reason I think crying is an Maybe you sense you need to talk things a step further but decided to challenge her to see if a she can handle it and/or if she is worthy of it? Just a thought.
> I do understand your point of view and your actions. I have done this too.
I'm glad you understand!
> Do I sometimes play to that to avoid stuff, yes, do I think he knows, yes. Why does he let me get away with it, because I think like you said because it is about having a relationship with someone like you may have never had one before.
Yeah...........I'm beginning to see it that way too.
> Good luck you will figure out why you want to challenge her.
Thank you mucho!
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