Posted by rskontos on November 1, 2008, at 13:42:55
In reply to Is this an example of a dual relationship?, posted by JayMac on October 31, 2008, at 19:14:44
JacMac,
a couple of things occurred to me, could be something could be hogwash. one is that maybe you two have a meeting of the minds so to speak in the psychology world, and yet you on the same hand feel inadequate in some part so now you want to challenge her in order to equalize the situation. Like I said could be hogwash.
And then as others have said it could be a way to avoid what is really going on or a way to avoid going deeper.
This is what I do. I use my intellectualize or left brain side to stay the heck away from getting "emo" as my children call getting to emotional. For some reason I think crying is an unpardonable sin in therapy. So I have to use babbling about nothing or trying to rethink my dx or something to avoid really talking about the things in my head. Maybe you sense you need to talk things a step further but decided to challenge her to see if a she can handle it and/or if she is worthy of it? Just a thought.
I do understand your point of view and your actions. I have done this too.
My t and I have connected this way. So I do understand what you are talking about. My T and I share psychology, he is a psychiatrist, we share books, movies and politics. Do I sometimes play to that to avoid stuff, yes, do I think he knows, yes. Why does he let me get away with it, because I think like you said because it is about having a relationship with someone like you may have never had one before. I never had a relationship like this with my father. Or my mother. So maybe for me he is being my Good parents. I don't know for sure. But I do know I enjoy this exchange for now. And I sure when the time is right I will go deeper.
Good luck you will figure out why you want to challenge her.
Take care,rsk
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