Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 30, 2008, at 4:56:07
In reply to Re: Very Painful- T Told me Not to E-mail Him Anym » sassyfrancesca, posted by Wittgensteinz on October 30, 2008, at 4:49:14
Just as an appendix to my post, this question of only sending him e-mails about 'therapeutic matters' seems bizarre to me. Surely by definition as a client whatever you have to say to him (or write in a mail) is 'grist for the mill' - and is of your therapy.
Now, if he has taken the relationship out of the domain of therapy, that was his action and his mistake. It is only possible for the therapist to start being 'untherapeutic' and not the client! e.g. if client is 'seductive' the client is still working within the rules of therapy - it is up to the therapist to interpret why the client feels a need to seduce, what are the underlying reasons - now if the therapy falls to the temptation of his seductive client, then he is the one being untherapeutic.
I think you were absolutely right to continue after the first time to write whatever you wanted in your mails. If he'd said "only mail in emergencies" then that's something different but as far as only mailing about therapeutic matters, then by definition surely you could write whatever you felt like.
Witti
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