Posted by happyflower on October 29, 2008, at 21:30:19
In reply to Re: Very Painful- T Told me Not to E-mail Him Anymore, posted by healing928 on October 29, 2008, at 20:01:08
(((((Sassy)))) I am sorry he is hurting you again. I think something must be up or his wife is suspecting what he is up to because she wanted the day your appointment was on, to be time for her, and now she is looking at his email.
Now what I don't get is that my husband and I both have several email accounts, business, personal, school, so I don't see why he can't have one for his professional use. And while usually there shouldn't be no secrets between wife and husband, there are secrets if you are a therapist and have clients, for the clients sake.
But he could also be setting up boundaries again if you are using the emails other than what he agreed to in the beginning.
This does hurt, especially if he allowed you to do this before, but he is doing what he should have been doing in the first place. So I don't know what to say, because I know you love him, but he is still your T.
I know how hurt I was with my first T's changing boundaries, so I know how it feels. But I also hope he either decides to be your real T (which after all the stuff that has happened, I doubt that can happen) or be with you personally.
I just don't like that you are hurting, it isn't fair to you that he did this.
Why haven't you told him that you won't have any money to pay him soon in the future? He needs to know this because if you do need to terminate, he needs to know to help you with this, that is his job as a T. It won't be right to spring this on him at the last minute especially since you have been seeing him a long time, and you have known for quite awhile that you won't have the money to pay him.