Posted by Morgan79 on October 20, 2008, at 8:23:32
I began therapy three years ago after a horrible break up. I have several issues from my childhood that we worked on during this time. We had some rough spots during the first 18 months, but he always stood by me. I fell in love with him during this time, and I told him how I felt. We would talk about my "transference" and then one session he told me that he has had feelings for me since he met me.
We live in a small town, and I go to school were he is the chair of the dept., so when he wanted to see me out of the office we drove an hour and half and would take day trips. They were the best days of my life. This happened for eight months, and then we were at a resturant and he saw one of his students. I decided at that point it couldn't continue. I couldn't live like this anymore, and it wasn't fair to him to lose everything he has worked for, for me.
He has asked me to come in for a session so we can talk, but I don't see were that is going to solve anything. I told him we just need to stay clear of each other for two years and then we can be together. We both agree that we were meant to be together. We have so much in common, we love the same things, music, poetry, and philosophy. I love him, but I couldn't live in the pain of a therapy office anymore.
~Morgan
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