Posted by stellabystarlight on October 20, 2008, at 16:20:39
In reply to My T story, posted by Morgan79 on October 20, 2008, at 8:23:32
Hi Morgan,
"...the pain of a therapy office..." I'm so sorry.
I understand what you're going through. I haven't had an affair with a T, but I've been in a similar situation. It's very painful - a no win situation. It hurts to stay and it hurts to go. I think you said it's only been 2 weeks, so it must be a struggle to keep away from him. I know it's especially hard when it's secretive and you can't share it with friends for support. Take one day at a time, and be kind to yourself...nurture you. If you're like me, you'll go through many stages before you're "over" him. Stages of protectecting him, blaming yourself, blaming him, loving him, hating him, etc., and finally forgiving and moving on.
And your T... No, he was not honorable, and I can go on about his failures, etc. But I think it's good that you're looking at your part in this sad affair for the sake of understanding yourself better, and to avoid repeating another painful mistake. I'm assuming he's married, since didn't mention going over to his place, and you had to go out of town to be with him.
I just wanted to let you know that you have my support. Take care and keep posting.
Stellabystarlight
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