Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 23, 2008, at 8:17:38
In reply to Re: Thanks for sharing...Morgan, posted by Morgan79 on October 22, 2008, at 10:40:46
> Thanks for the hugs and support. You are most welcome! I would like to clear up a few things...
> "If you educate yourself about t/client relationships, etc....it will clear some things up:"
> I have read several texts about the dynamic of t/client relationship and In Session. Each t/client dyad is unique and I know what we had was true love and not transference. He did not remind me of anyone I ever encountered.
But you (we) cannot know what is in our subconscious; he may be the parent you never had,
Yes, he was older, but he was not the first older man I ever had a relationship with.
Looking for a father figure, perhaps (I never knew my father)...it's only human and natural to look for what we never had....in order to re-frame and fix the past.
> "There is also a lot of information on the internet regarding client/t relationships, ethics, etc., etc..."
> I know intellectually he broke every board of ethics in the field; however, my heart still loves him more than words could ever describe.
> Thanks for your support.
I hope it works out, but first I would do a lot of therapy with another t....there is so much of the subconscious going on here.....wants, needs, vuleranability, etc....
i still recommend "Sex in the Forbidden Zone" by Peter Rutter; it should be read by therapists and clients, alike.....