Posted by JouezMoi on October 21, 2008, at 18:05:18
In reply to Re: Thanks for sharing...Morgan, posted by Morgan79 on October 21, 2008, at 17:18:21
Morgan, what you have described is normal. Almost thinking that he may have manipulated the attraction (expecting it, waiting for it), wondering if it was real, everything feeling hazy ... even choosing to train to be a t. It sounds like classic 'erotic' transference... "in love with T". At the same time, that happens in normal everyday life too, with attraction, relationshipps and bonding... there is a degree of transference in that even. Many of us on this board have been through that, except you and T acted on it. This should have brought some sort of reality to the situation. You seem to still have a sound sense of groundedness in reality, and based on this, you will be fine. Give yourself time, you are doing what feels right for you right now, and if that means distance between the two of you, that is your choice for you. Don't be hard on yourself.
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