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Re: I'm feeling so down these days

Posted by lucie lu on October 11, 2008, at 22:02:26

In reply to Re: I'm feeling so down these days, posted by JayMac on October 11, 2008, at 14:14:00

> Lucie,
> Although I don't know what it's like to have FM, I do know what it's like to depressed, needy, and somewhat helpless. I can feel your need to (re)connect with both your husband and your T as well as your overall support system. It sounds to me like you don't want to a burden on your husband, or on anyone else. I wonder what it would be like for you to tell him what you need? I'm also curious if you are feeling more intensity with your T because you don't feel you are getting your emotional needs (comfort, cuddling, hugging, etc) met by your DH (and that maybe a completely different topic)?

Oh Jay, your post made me cry. You are right, my DH and I are having problems, and I do feel I'm turning to my T to meet my emotional needs instead of my DH. It is a separate topic yet not unconnected, by any means. It does make me feel lonely, since I know my T can't meet those needs either.

> I can hear in your email that do not want to return to those "old feelings" with your T. But let me remind you of something: you are going through an especially difficult time, where I think it's okay to be feeling especially needy. Needy of your children, husband, friends, T, and other support. I truly know how it feels to need my T so bad that I want to cry out her name and have her come running to me. It's such a tough spot.

Thank you for reminding me that it is OK to feel needy. It is hard for me.

> What would it be like for you to take up your T on his offer to give you extra support? Talking about these things with him may make you feel worse, but I know you are strong enough to keep holding on and push through. In my opinion (and from some of my own experience), speaking of such details with your T furthers your relationship, deepens your connection. Let yourself experience his warmth over and over and over again.

Thank you for the vote of confidence :) I do feel less connected with my T when I am unable to tell him what I need, even when he cannot be the one to meet them.

> Hugs, love, and peace to you my friend.
> JayMac

Thank you so much, Jay!

Lucie


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