Posted by Wittgensteinz on October 11, 2008, at 18:48:58
In reply to I'm feeling so down these days, posted by lucie lu on October 11, 2008, at 11:48:47
(((LL))) I'm sorry things are so tough for you right now. Fibromyalgia sounds terribly unpleasant. Health problems can be such a burden and make one feel helpless. I think this could well be a factor in your depression. Plus the added helplessness you feel in regard to your DH, friends and family. You need their support but you feel you can't ask for it - perhaps you are supporting those around you when really you don't have the energy to?
What you said to me the other day helped me a lot - I don't think you should be afraid to call on others for support and understanding - you clearly are a person who goes out of her way to support others. I don't think you should feel bad about needing more from your T - why not let him support you as much as you need to help get you through this period? Be kind to yourself.
You talk of a deep, insatiable need to be held, cuddled by your T. I know this feeling - I know this pain - this is something I experience intensely with my T. He won't physically hold me. He used the imagery once of him as a life-buoy that I held onto and said I could hold on as long as I needed to. I liked this image, the idea that he is stopping me from sinking - he's just making sure my head stays above the water. It made my neediness seem more reasonable, understandable to me - it made me feel less uncomfortable/ashamed about leaning on him.
I really hope you begin to feel better again before long - in the mean time, please don't be afraid to get the help you need from your T. He sounds like a great T btw.
Witti
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