Posted by antigua3 on September 23, 2008, at 9:07:06
In reply to I am so distressed, posted by lemonaide on September 22, 2008, at 22:32:42
I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation.
Here's what I would suggest, and just take it as my opinion.
1. You have "real" reasons for wanting to leave your T.
2. You may have "hidden" abandonment issues also that may make you want to leave your T before he leaves you.
What if you make a pact with yourself. You leave this T, find another good one and commit yourself entirely to work through whatever comes up. No T is going to be perfect, but you can work through most things w/a good one. When you feel the need to leave this time around, really examine why and really try to stay.
I'm not saying you're running from yourself because in this case you have very good reasons because of his diminishing health. You don't have to put yourself in this situation; you can choose to move on. But move on knowing that you will have to deal with leaving this T with your new T.
Also, as someone mentioned, I'm not sure that the T you called should have revealed that information. I would assume it was confidential, so I'd think twice about going with someone who speaks so freely.
Just my two cents. I know you're struggling, and please know that I care.
antigua
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