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Re: Therapist is retiring

Posted by friesandcoke on May 21, 2008, at 1:00:25

In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 13, 2008, at 20:37:59

I am glad you posted. Did I miss a post? I have to go in and check. I didn't check off a box last time about 'notify of follow-ups on this post' or something because I thought it automatically did it. I hadn't realized I must have been checking that box off all along. I don't know. But if I missed a post or ignored one, please forgive me. I am very upset about my T leaving. Her last day is the 19th of June. I will be seeing her for the last time on the 17th. Besides that I have other issues in my life. Employment, health, family. I am VERY glad you are talking to your T about the retirement thing. From personal experience I don't think it is too early to start. I started to talk to my therapist starting about 2 years ago I was so upset!! Yes! She would kind of blow me off but not in a bad way by saying, "we have lots of time". I guess getting upset 2 years in advance was a bit much but I certainly think you are within the right time to be getting all the feelings out. Is there someone else she can reccomend for when she "steps down"? My T for the last two weeks was supposed to give me info about the new therapist she has picked out and hasn't yet and I am a bit miffed at her. I was supposed to find out last week and she didn't come through and then I thought "surely this week" and nothing. I did not bring it up either. I wish she would get something going though because I need time to meet the new therapist and then consult with my present T on what I think of the new one. My T is good but I KNEW she was going to mess up on this. I just knew it. One time she was supposed to fill out a paper for me and two weeks later she still hadn't. I couldn't imagine why not. Not happy at all that she hasn't had any info about the 'new therapist'. I may call her and leave her a voicemail this week. I really don't like being left in the dark like this. And you would think I would mention it to her. I am after all a grown woman. But the reason I didn't was because I know she knows it is something she has to do and I trust her to work it out. Only time is a wasting. That is my complaint. I think I will call her to leave a message. I don't think this is right. And I consider her a very good therapist. This is an example that shows she isn't perfect. Actually this is not good! It makes her look very bad. Please stay in touch. Keep talking to your T about retirement as you feel so inclined. Believe me, it isn't too early. I am glad you got the tears to come out. You know what I am doing? I went to www.blogger.com and have been making my T a farewell blog. I started in January with my thoughts and stuff. You may want to start something like that for you even if you don't give it to her. You will get your feelings out and anything you don't get to say in session you can say on your blog to her. Which you will give her as a gift (surprise) the last day you see her. I want to get my T some roses. 3 roses. Long story. Nitey night for now. Friesandcoke in New York


> That sounds hard, but it also sounds like you got at least some of what you need from her. I'm so happy for you. My T hugs me, too -- she's the first person I ever willingly hugged.
>
> I get what your T is saying about what an emotional mess she would be if she got upset about all 20 clients. And she's right that it is different for them than it is for us, but she's also going to miss you and she admitted it!
>
> I see my T tomorrow and her retirement (I'm trying not to think about it as her leaving me) is high on the agenda. I'll let you know how that goes.


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