Posted by friesandcoke on May 8, 2008, at 11:23:02
In reply to Re: Therapist is retiring » friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on May 7, 2008, at 20:20:11
> And I feel yours, too. I'm going to try to get it all out between now and then, but I know I'm going to have the same problems with that as you have. My T is like a mother to me, too -- in fact, I tell people she finished raising me. And she did, too.
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> Please keep me posted on how it's going. I'll be thinking about you.I am angry at my T right now. I don't like the way she is handling this ending. I want her to be all emotional, etc., giving me tips on how to live without her and all that. Instead she is treating each session like a regular session. No us huddling together asking what to do and all that. She is just acting like her regular self and I don't like this. And this is a woman who has literally been a mother to me as my mother is very disturbed. My last day with her is in a month so we only have a few sessions left. I was going to call her to let her know I feel this way. I NEVER CALL HER. But I can't seem to give in and call her about this even though it is bothering me. I expected she would be all emotional each session as it is drawing to an end but she isn't. She sits at her desk facing me and I am on her love seat and she is letting me take the lead instead of bringing up stuff herself. This is usually how we do it but I don't like the fact that she has not said anything like, "Oh my gosh, we only have a few sessions left, let's see what we can do here" and so forth. She is arranging for me to see another therapist at the place she works at when she leaves. I saw a therapist when I was in my 20's (am in my 50's now). When I had to say goodbye to him he handled it horribly! Was actually mean to me when I was crying and getting all emotional saying "this is not about me, it is about your parents" and such. No compassion at all. And while this current therapist has saved my life, I really can't complain...these last few sessions are NOT what I expected AT ALL. Please keep posting.
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