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Re: Mooning over my therapist... backseatdriver

Posted by raisinb on May 7, 2008, at 13:50:27

In reply to Mooning over my therapist..., posted by backseatdriver on May 6, 2008, at 19:44:29

I'm still in and out of the same situation myself so I can't tell you how to make it go away or resolve it ;) I wish I knew!

But here are some things I've picked up along the way:

--enjoy it. It's not completely a horrible thing (though it can be painful.) But it also shows you you're capable of a depth of emotional vulnerability and feeling you didn't know you still could achieve. It shows that somewhere you aren't as wounded as maybe you thought. And the fantasies are fun too, or can be :)
--use it to learn about *yourself.* Analyze every little detail of those fantasies. They show you what you are missing, what you need, what you know to be true (or wish wasn't true) about yourself. You might know your therapist little, but if you analyze your love for him, you will learn a hell of a lot about yourself.
--Tell your therapist what you feel, express as much emotion--yell and scream and cry and curse if you want--but if you can't manage that, then make sure you do as much as you can on your own, because you owe it to yourself. This is what therapy is for. And sometimes our therapists don't help much, but we can always relentlessly help ourselves.
--Try not to sink into despair about it (if you have a tendency to).
--Remember it's common, normal, and perfectly okay.
--Post here.


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