Posted by sassyfrancesca on May 7, 2008, at 8:00:15
In reply to Re: Mooning over my therapist... » backseatdriver, posted by Dinah on May 6, 2008, at 21:12:26
(Perhaps repeating myself)...Been in love with my t for almost 5 years. Hate the word, transference; this are real feelings for someone who has allowed me to "see" him.
We've discussed my (our) feelings many times.
Unfortunately he is alike me in over 30 different ways (hey, some married couples can't even say that, LOL, LOL)....
He sexualized our relationship years ago (no, no sex, but touching, innuendo); I could write a book.
He has led me on. The excruciating thing is that I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse, and have been alone fo 3 years.....
The real miracle is not that I haven't acted on my feelings, but I haven't acted on them in SPITE of how he has led me on.
A few (out of hundreds) of provocative things he has said: If I were to give you the green light would you go for it? You are in my heart and in my head.......WE find it hard to end the session, and WE find it hard to say goodbye.
If I were not married, I would probably go for it.
You mentioned the APA?! I went to the APA's convention a month ago in Hawaii......he saw me FIVE times, but didn't say anything.....and then (the shocker)
He said that he looked for me for a half an hour at the opening dance, and would have danced with me. Huh? He won't say hello to me, but he WILL dance with me??!!
Talk about confusing, mixed signals.
I am already planning for the next APA conference in North Carolina next year. I may be a presenter; I was encouraged by the APA's executive director to apply, because I was appalled that in over 500 sessions (in Hawaii) there was nothing about verbal abuse (one of my passions, as moderator of an abused survivors' group).....
So, it frosts my cookies to think that we were in Hawaii at the same time, he saw me FIVE times and didn't say anything---those weird rules, but he WOULD DANCE WITH ME?! Freaky....
He said he considered it a "success" that we didn't see each other....sheeesh......he's trying to resist temptation, and I am (LOL) doing everything I can to tempt him!
I bring in flowers, candles and he plays music....long story.
I believe we are having the longest incidence of foreplay in the history of the Universe.
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