Posted by crushedout on March 8, 2008, at 11:40:04
In reply to Re: an idea » crushedout, posted by raisinb on March 8, 2008, at 8:50:21
Thanks, raisinb. I'm sure it's different for everyone, but because I tend to get so emotionally invested with my therapists (I guess most of us on this board probably do, but not everyone does), I have a feeling that it might be good for me not to have a therapist anymore. Because I don't seem to be able to "work through" any of my transference, learn from it in some useful way, I just don't see what good it does me.I'm still totally on the fence about whether to cancel Monday. And if I cancel, how to do it.
> Yeah, don't do it if it doesn't make you feel more secure. My worst fear is that my T will continue to see me, even while taking out her own issues on me. Abandonment comes second, but I think I forgot that for many babblers, it comes first.
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> I have that feeling all the time--that if I just *force* myself to quit therapy, then my real life will get better because I'm *forced* to invest in it more. My T says, "well, it's not like smoking!" and that the reason I formulate it that way is that I'm too hard on myself. But it's hard to say either way.
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> This sure sucks. Try to take care of yourself and feel better, whether you go to the session or not.
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