Posted by raisinb on March 7, 2008, at 13:30:12
In reply to more steam, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2008, at 13:22:18
When I returned to my current T a few months ago, after a good deal of drama, I typed up an "agreement"--things that were guidelines we both could agree to follow--ground rules, sort of.
One of the things on that list was, "If you begin to feel negative feelings towards me that you can't resolve within a reasonable amount of time (I suggested two weeks) I would like you to terminate the relationship immediately. On my end, I'll accept this without argument and I won't attempt to contact you again." She agreed to this and it has always made me feel better. I feel that as a client, I technically shouldn't have to explicitly ask for that commitment, but that it made me feel better to have her agree to it.
If you do go back and repair what has happened, perhaps something of this sort would be in order?
poster:raisinb
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