Posted by Racer on February 22, 2008, at 9:28:27
In reply to Re: Ugh, and therapy was not good today » Racer, posted by Dinah on February 22, 2008, at 8:44:36
> Is she good at accepting feedback when you give it?
That depends -- sometimes no, but usually yes. I tried to tell her about something Daisy triggered me into thinking about, and she kept saying, "Oh, that's all cognitive, that's not how it works," but what I was trying to express wasn't what she was apparently getting. (Partly because she sometimes gets an idea of what she wants to talk about, and then fits what I'm saying to it. Yesterday, she wanted to talk about the cognitive fixes for depression, so of course what I said was seen through that lens.)
(Kinda like when she wanted to talk about black and white thinking, and we were talking about me needing a new car, and my husband's objections to the cars I wanted. I told her that I wanted a Saab convertible, because I'd wanted one for 25 years. That if I couldn't have one -- at the time my husband was adamantly opposed -- then I wanted another Corolla. She took that as black and white thinking, that the Corolla was a "oh, I'll just sit here in the dark" fall back plan, so it was black and white thinking. But for me, the Saab convertible was the dream car, the Corolla was the pleasant, comfortable, best-dang-car-out-there, practical choice -- I loved my Corolla, I loved my 1982 Corolla Tercel even more, and it certainly wasn't settling for another Corolla at all, but getting what I think of as a really great car. During that session, she wouldn't see what I was trying to say, but the following session, when I told her she really hit a sour note on it, she heard me and we could talk about it.)
(I think I'm pretty good at recognizing where I have problems, and black and white thinking isn't someplace I really see it. That may have been bleed-over from another client...)
Thanks for caring, Dinah. It means a lot to me.