Posted by Dinah on February 21, 2008, at 17:51:00
In reply to Recovery from traumatic experience, posted by Racer on February 21, 2008, at 17:01:23
It would be nice if we were as gentle and understanding with ourselves as we are with others.
I think most intelligent and self aware people can pick up pretty quickly the "shoulds" of thoughts and behaviors. But in order for it to become part of who we are and how we see ourselves, it takes more than an understanding for many of us.
It would be nice if what it did take could be analyzed and written down. But that may be different for each of us. For some of us it might take "doing". Behaving as if until it happens. Or for some of us it might take taking in the views of someone we trust and admire. Or it might take experiencing compassion for someone else who isn't all that different from yourself. I wish I had the key.
It seems to me that you're taking steps toward it though? I seem to remember some recent posts that showed that. Of course it's not a linear progression, and even if you felt it then you might not feel it now. But you might feel it again tomorrow or next week.
I don't know what I'm saying really.
Other than that I care, and that I have faith in you.
poster:Dinah
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