Posted by lovelorn on December 18, 2007, at 17:52:04
In reply to Re: Bad therapy ending, posted by Eltoro on December 18, 2007, at 13:46:47
>She: "do you want me to act like a mom?"
Me: no, but.. i dont know.. maybe..
She: "i think therapy is over, i am not willing to come here and be offended like this, you dont care for people, and I cant deal with this, you owe me $xx.xx, goodbye" (i didnt see this coming).Despite your saying there was strict therapy boundaries, this exchange sounds like something went very personal somewhere along the way.
In any case, it makes me wonder about her qualifications and experience. In therapy, people express all kinds of feelings and needs. An experienced and well versed therapist/psychologist would not take those feelings and thoughts too personally, or at least would point out where your feelings and thoughts are inappropriate and get you back on track to what your issues are or have you explore them in more detail and how they relate to you and your background(not themselves).
As noted, it sounds things got very personal, where they shouldn't have. How it got that way, I don't know. The onus is on the professional, though, to not let it get personal and to keep things in perspective. Of course, they are only human and can make mistakes.
>Thanks for your comments, i cant tell you how much it means to me to have a chance to ventilate this a bit more... i wanted to go to therapy to put my ideas together and see if I can make a more solid resolution of all this...
I hope you find what you need if you search out another therapist, to ventilate and understand better what this means to you.
> i know i wont know what she thinks until she tells me (she wont)...
And that is the way it goes sometimes. Sometimes we never get answers or confirmations to our questions. We can only examine ourselves and operate differently and better in future.
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