Posted by DAisym on October 27, 2007, at 16:20:31
In reply to Re: therapy tomorrow; will take the risk head-on, posted by RealMe on October 27, 2007, at 0:30:11
You were very brave to be so open. I really like his response - now you have an opportunity to have a relationship with a man in a different way.
Knowing things can never be sexual doesn't mean that you won't or shouldn't have those feelings still. Part of the chemistry between two people is still embedded in biological systems. As much as we might wish it, we can't control everything. :)
Do you think that your feelings, of wanting to have sex with him, are coming from a defensive place - "it is inevitable so I might as well get it over with" - or a power place, "having sex with someone gives me power and pull with them or over them." Or some other place? I've been trying to figure this out for myself lately.
You really are doing amazing work for having been with this therapist for such a short period of time. I'm in the middle of these discussions too but it has been over 4 years for me!
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