Posted by DAisym on July 16, 2007, at 0:58:55
In reply to Re: Needs, wants.....bleck » 10derheart, posted by Dinah on July 15, 2007, at 16:26:22
Yes but...
I think I feel the same way sometimes as Tender. I WANT/NEED what I've found in therapy - someone who gets me, someone who cares that I have nightmares and someone who can tolerate my sadness. I think something inside me has been shaken awake and now it won't go back to sleep. This thing longs to feel cared for and safe and like I matter. My therapist has provided these things but now the limitations are so painful. I want it in IRL! So I want him - but know I can't have him - and know that I'd never want to wreck his life anyway, career, family, etc. -- but still -- I want him. I tell myself I want someone like him, but I have no faith that I'll ever meet anyone like him who would care about me.
This isn't a sexual fantasy at all. This is a warm partner fantasy in which I'm not alone anymore.
Therapy is so painful right now because of these feelings.
I'm with Tender, I want to yell at him.
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